While some people are worried about where to find dating prospects, others are more concerned about how to turn away unwanted prospects. This can be quite daunting for the person who feels compelled to be nice. From childhood most women are instructed in good manners and the grave importance of being nice above all else, which can make it nearly impossible to deliver a message of rejection. But, lets be realistic. How can you expect to survive dating, without being able to say No to any number of requests?

Heres a classic scenario. Imagine you are having a glass of wine for your first face-to-face date. The conversation hasnt been flowing so easily and your brain is working overtime thinking of excuses why you dont want to see him again. Whether he asks to see you again before leaving the table or as he walks you to the car, the anticipation of how youll respond is mounting. Whats a nice girl to do?

Below, youll find a list of 10 ways to say No thank you with kindness and grace. Preparing a few key phrases in advance will help you to feel more confident about your ability to escape unwanted situations. Practice the lines that work best for you and feel the most comfortable. This proactive approach will calm your nerves and help you to feel more in control. When youre ready with answers, youll be less likely to get caught off guard!

Here are 10 kind ways to say No to a mans request for a second date (or first!)

As you can see from this list, there is a structure to each statement. Begin with a pleasant comment, mentioning something you did enjoy, then segue into a vague comment on whats not quite right. Be sure to keep your comments focused on yourself and refrain from criticizing your date in anyway. This makes your rejection impossible to argue with, a quality that will pave the way for a smoother exit.

Lastly, do your best to avoid defending your decision or explaining it in more detail. That weakens the boundary you have just bravely established. If your date keeps pushing for more information, dont feel you must respond with anything more than reiterating your original statement. You don't owe anyone anything and the less said during rejection, the better. If you do run into a guy who wants to discuss what he can do to change or improve, simply restate your decision and then feel free to get up and walk away.

Saying no is not always easy, but it can be done with grace while minimizing the impact of pain you inflict. When dating, no one can escape a certain degree of rejection. It's just part of the territory and everyone knows it's bound to happen once in a while. Get used to saying No and move on to find the right man for you.

Ronnie Ann Ryan

Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Business and Personal Certified Coach serving two distincts niches
1)Finding love as the Dating Coach, she has helped over a thousand people jumpstart or accelerate their search for love. Her book, MANifesting Mr. Right: It's Never Too Late to Find the Love You Want has received high praise from the likes of Sam Horn, author of Tongue Fu and Emcee of the Maui Writer's Conference, and Trudy Griswold, author of AngelSpeake.

2) Improving noteworthiness as the Personal PR Paramedic, she has helped clients make a good impression, land a new job, or get promoted, as well as achieving a wide range of other goals.

Ronnie is also a speaker and workshop leader and has been featured on Fox and NBC news in Boston, as well as radio and print around New England.